Apr

Don’t Let Fear of Judgment Hold You Back

Why are we relaxed around our friends and nervous in front of an audience?

Judgment

We live our lives in fear of judgment. We are often our own worst critic. Then we fear what our parents, friends, loved ones, company workers, or strangers may think.

Why do we depend on others to decide who we are?

Unfortunately, most of us are raised to be indebt to the system and not praised for the perfect being we are. Our parents have expectations that we will behave, study, enjoy school, get a job, get out of the house, and give them grandchildren.

We are criticized most of our youth for not quite living up to someone else’s dictates. There is the grading system in school which early on determines if we are worthy of life. There is even a social status for the A students and then the poor average C students.

We were raised in the Classic science modality; everything is matter and all thoughts and knowledge originate in the brain. Scientists now are more Spiritual than ever. They realize that the larger reality is outside the brain. The brain may just be a transceiver for knowledge that is translated into thoughts for the mind.

The real achievers in life seem to be the people who have passion, not straight A’s. The happiest people are those who have the opportunity to pursue their passions and engage on a daily basis. The science of the brain says these people have more dopamine which is scientific proof they are enjoying themselves.

The fight for control between government and religion would not allow us to have spirituality classes every year from kindergarten through college. It wouldn’t have to say which people God favors, just explain how the Universe began and the wonders of every creature, weather, and creative destruction.

If the classes delved into the atomic make up of everything on earth we would find that a few elements are responsible for water, air, earth, DNA, and man. Digging a little deeper we would find that quarks and gluons are at the basis of all atoms. That would mean that the Chinese, Hispanic, Black, Brown, and White children in our classes are all the same.

It would mean there is a grand design that created life and perpetuates the physical conditions that sustain it. The social order is much lower on the scale of existence than the natural order.

It took a deeper Spiritual connection for me to feel that if I am perfect by design and that the highest calling would be to develop my gifted core competencies and express myself to help others. It seems to make sense because that also makes me happiest.

Expressing my passions leaves me subject to judgment but does not shake my faith in who I am. If I want to make money expressing my passions, I just have to find how my services intersect with what those who are consuming need.

Our first order of business when we are young should be to realize we are entitled to be happy and then maintain a connection with the activities and feelings that sustain that happiness. We need love, belonging, kindness, companionship, caring, community, and contribution.

We have to give unselfishly to create the positive feed back loops that govern the Chaos of natural laws. Man is not really capable of 100% altruism or at that point he would be equal to the Creator. So giving with an agenda is still part of his accepted behavior.

Flow in activities or life is exercising our core competencies to engage in activities we love, to create the best performance for which we are capable. No one has the God given right to ask for anything more. Finding our voice and helping others find their voice is Stephen Covey’s idea of our highest purpose.

It would be the same for each of us when we learn to find ourselves and suspend judgment by those who should be working on their own consciousness.

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